Moms Rock!
I love moms! I believe moms are doing the most important work on the planet for several reasons. But, the most important one is this.
In Meditation Land we’ve learned that the path to becoming a good mom isn’t about your parenting skills. It’s about becoming authentically you. And, for most of us, that is the hardest, most painfully honest work we will ever do.
Why? Because it involves:
Having the courage to see yourself as you
really are without judgment.
This is by far the hardest work anyone ever does. It’s so uncomfortable and brutal that most people distract themselves with medication, shopping, alcohol, anger, their appearance, their careers, sex, drugs, social media, streaming or binging on Netflix, add your own to this list…
But, here’s the thing… The reward of seeing yourself as you really are teaches you how to see the nature of other people as they are AND the nature of life as it is. That brings wisdom!
Having the courage to tenderly love and
appreciate yourself just as you are.
This is definitely not an easy thing to do! Especially in a culture that judges, denigrates, mocks, and ridicules any kind of vulnerability, self-nurturing, or self-awareness.
But, here’s the other thing… Learning how to love and appreciate yourself is essential if you truly want to love your kids. You can’t do for your kids what you don’t know how to do for yourself. It’s that simple. Being a good mom is all about you first learning how to love you.
I believe the path to becoming a ‘good’ mom is a spiritual path. Learning how to be the mom you want to be isn’t about taking parenting classes, reading the latest parenting book, or following the latest trends. Yes, those things can be helpful.
But, ultimately, your child chose you to be its parent—not the latest book author.
Doing the deep, hard, spiritual work to become a mom who knows:
- How to deal with their shit without judgment or blame,
- The power of kindness and understanding to nurture relationships,
- How to live authentically and unapologetically,
is the secret to becoming the mom you want to be.
In the process of growing and changing—becoming wiser and capable of unconditional love—you become someone with the insight, courage, and clarity, to be the mom your unique child needs.
Most people don’t want to do this kind of soul searching, healing, and changing. It’s too hard and too much work. But if you are reading this, that tells me you do. And so it’s to you I say with so much love and appreciation,
‘You rock, mom! You rock!’